Episode 553

Want a Better Relationship? Use These 3 Super Hacks to Improve Your Communication, Sex, and Intimacy

With Dr. John Gottman
& Dr. Emily Morse
& Esther Perel

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Relationships, communication, and intimacy are the cornerstones of meaningful connections in our lives, yet they often present some of our greatest challenges. In today’s episode, leading experts explore the keys to fostering deeper relationships, improving communication, and creating lasting intimacy, offering practical tools to transform how we connect with those we love.

Today on The Dhru Purohit Show, we bring you a special compilation episode featuring Dhru’s conversations with experts on relationships, connection, and intimacy.

Drs. John and Julie Gottman discuss the importance of recognizing what your partner is doing right. They also highlight key findings from a seven-year study on happiness, including how to turn toward your partner and implement bids for connection.

Dr. Emily Morse explains why scheduling intimacy—even if it feels like a chore—is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship. She also dives into the “Three T’s of Communication” and how to initiate conversations about intimacy.

Esther Perel shares why letting go of the need to be right is essential, along with strategies to overcome the overwhelming feeling of disconnect when your partner doesn’t see your point of view. She breaks down how all fights connect to core pillars and offers tips on practicing mirroring for better understanding.

If you’re ready to enhance your relationships and improve your communication and intimacy, this episode is a must-listen!

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I hope you enjoyed this conversation as much as I did.
Wishing you health and happiness.
Dhru Purohit

In this Episode, you will learn

  1. Evidence that your partner is doing things right
    (2:00)
  2. Seven-year study on happiness and turning toward your partner
    (3:10)
  3. Bid for connection and how to implement it
    (6:18)
  4. Interdependence versus independence
    (16:12)
  5. Scheduling intimacy
    (20:35)
  6. Who should initiate the conversation
    (23:25)
  7. The 3 T’s of communication: Timing, Tone, and Turf
    (25:15)
  8. Mirroring what you heard
    (29:15)
  9. Initiating the conversation and carrying the burden
    (33:25)
  10. The need to be right
    (39:52)
  11. The overwhelming feeling of disconnect
    (42:57)
  12. Catching yourself, listening, and mirroring
    (46:32)
  13. The core pillars: What all fights are about
    (53:15)
  14. Final thoughts
    (56:30)

Guest

 
Dhru Purohit

Dhru is the host of the Dhru Purohit Show, a top 30 health podcast with over 30 million downloads. His interviews focus on the inner workings of the brain and the body and feature the brightest minds in wellness, medicine, and mindset.

Dhru Purohit is also a serial entrepreneur and investor in the health and wellness industry.

 
Dr. John Gottman

Drs. John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman are cofounders of the Gottman Institute.

Dr. John Gottman previously served as executive director of the Relationship Research Institute and is a professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington, where he founded the Love Lab. He is world-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction and has conducted forty years of groundbreaking research with thousands of couples. His work has earned him numerous major awards, and he was named one of the top ten most influential therapists of the past quarter century. He is the author of numerous bestselling books, including The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, What Makes Love LastEight Dates, and more.

Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is president of the Gottman Institute and cofounder of Affective Software, Inc. A highly respected clinical psychologist, she was named Washington State Psychologist of the Year and received the 2021 Psychotherapy Networker Lifetime Achievement Award. She is the author and coauthor of many bestselling books, including Eight Dates, Ten Lessons to Transform Your MarriageThe Man’s Guide to Women, and And Baby Makes Three.

Drs. John and Julia Gottman have studied over 3,000 couples and through their research have found the secrets to successful partnerships. The Gottmans help give individuals the tools they need to listen and connect with their partner while providing a safe space for conversation and growth without criticism or contempt.

 
Dr. Emily Morse

Dr. Emily Morse is the host of the award-winning number one sexuality podcast, Sex With Emily, which has been on the air for nearly two decades. Dr. Morse is a MasterClass instructor on sex and communication and was previously a radio host and executive producer on SiriusXM. She has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes, and Men’s Health and has been featured by The Today Show, Conan, Entertainment Tonight, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Bustle, and more.

Dr. Morse’s mission is to liberate the conversation about sex and pleasure, which is why she wrote Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Own Pleasure (set to be released on June 13). Her candid conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation, and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives.

 
Esther Perel

Esther Perel is a psychotherapist recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into nearly 30 languages. Esther is an executive producer and host of the podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s Work?

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